Monthly Archives: May 2018

It’s Hard to be Self-Sufficient when you’re Dead

I have kids in school and this shit is real for me…is it real for “responsible” gun owners?


I don’t have all the answers to the mass shootings—no one person does—but come the fuck on people. We have a culture of gun worship as opposed to gun responsibility. If your kid gets a hold of your gun and shoots up a school then fuck you. 

To legally drive a car, I have to take a test every several years to ensure I know the safety rules. I even have to get my eyes checked. Maybe all the “responsible” gun owners should have to take safety courses and undergo mental health checks now and then. Maybe they should have to prove they are keeping their guns away from children and others that can steal them and wreak havoc. Maybe the ones that choose to spend thousands of dollars on automatics and stockpiling weapons should have to put some of that cash into funds for gun education and safety courses. After all, they clearly have disposable income.

Almost everything seems to be a privilege in  America…healthcare, college education, driving, etc. However, gun ownership is a God-given right unless you’re a violent felon. Unfortunately, violent felons aren’t really synonymous with mass shooters.

Real criminals deal drugs and rob stores. The crazy clowns that shoot up the schools and the movie theaters often have no criminal backgrounds so barring felons from gun ownership is not the answer. Truthfully, I’d rather have a real criminal with some heat around so they can stop the sissy mf’s that are shooting places up.

We don’t have a responsible gun culture. We have a lot of people all saying they are responsible. If we really wanted a responsible culture then our leaders would find ways to enhance the chances of true responsible ownership, and the gun owners would support them. 

And remember, a 64-year-old carried out the deadliest mass shooting in US history so we can’t blame it all on “coddled” kids. Besides, if we wanna put all the blame on parenting, how did all you grandparents raise kids that turned out to be such lousy parents?

For the one or two people that made it this far…let’s hope our “responsible” gun owners can all get a little more responsible and support real change.

Zen and the Skill of Slowing Down Time


Unfortunately, turning over the hour glass won’t turn back time

Time flies. This is especially true as we get older. We all here this, and I’d bet the farm–if I had one–that most of us relate to this sentiment to some degree.

Well, I got to thinking, why must it be this way? Then I thought–I do that now and then– that it doesn’t have to be that way. We can change this perception.

As Mr. Dufresne said: “I guess it comes down to a simple choice: Get busy living or get busy dying.”

Living in the moment

Having read a touch about Buddhism, and even meditated a bit, I’m aware of the philosophy’s emphasis on living in the moment. Aha…says me. That’s the key to slowing down time.

Now, I get that this isn’t a groundbreaking thought. After all, Buddhism did originate over 2,500 years ago. Having said this, how many of us think of living in the moment when someone brings out the “My how time flies” sentiment? I see this as a problem because I like living. So, the solution is slowing down time.

Can slowing down time work?

Once again, I think…no way I’m the first to have thunk this. So, a quick search of the magical info superhighway produced this NPR piece that speaks of scientists theorizing that novel memories create more detailed memories. With more detailed memories comes the perception that an event lasted a long time.

The answer is clear. Live in the moment, and treat time as a keepsake more valuable than a porn star’s night out with Donald Trump. That is the answer to slowing down time. Apologies if that provided an unnecessarily grotesque visual, but it sure seems to be a lucrative endeavor.

At any rate, I’m going to work on my Zen skills and get busy living

Why Does Time Fly By As You Get Older? : Krulwich Wonders… : NPR

Who Cares About the Millennial Age Range and other Generational Divisions?


Celebrating the positives of millennials, or any age group, is a good thing. However, are Americans creating harmful age-based divisions? Part of self-sufficiency means being yourself and avoiding age-based labels that lead to decreased cooperation and less productivity.

The utility of age range labels

People like labels, though I think we all know they can be both useful and harmful. Americans are particularly adept at labeling, and our generational terminology is exhibit number one for this observation. What have generation X and Y contributed to society? Are the baby boomers to blame for the difficult plight of many millennials? As if we didn’t have enough division with our hyper-partisan political parties, we feel the need to create age-based categories to explain our current socioeconomic and political situations.

When generational labels are used to celebrate a generation’s achievements, they can seem harmless and perhaps useful. When the labels serve to blame and denigrate, they are divisive and regressive and much too common.

Ultimately, researchers find the scientific usefulness of age labels to be tenuous at best. For example, in reference to generation differences, Reaves and Oh have this to state in their conclusions:

The gross generalizations based on weak survey research and the speculations of profit-oriented consultants should be treated with extreme caution…”

Handbook of Research on Educational Communications and Technology: A Project of the Association for Educational Communications and Technology Generational Differences pg.302

Millenials, and Boomers, and Gen Xers

Generational labels can be harmless. However, is the trend toward blaming and generation shaming worth the effort of naming, and defining, every generation? After all, isn’t it more productive to place us all in a group called Americans, or even citizens of the world?

Diversity is to be rejoiced and age differences are an inherent part of life. However, a nation’s citizen’s need at least some shared characteristics and values to foster a “were all in it together” type of environment. Maybe all the age-based labels aren’t worth the trouble it takes to define and characterize them.

So, what is the age range for millennials? I say who cares? I’m betting all those lions, and tigers, and bears in the Land of Oz weren’t so scary after the cowardly lion got his courage. Maybe Americans can someday say the same about millennials, and boomers, and gen Xers. Any group, or individual, will find excuses when looking for them. Alternatively, we can move forward without using our age groups as a knife or a crutch.

In the meantime, perhaps laughing about our differences, instead of whining about them, is our best alternative.